Hello, Doctor Love, I seriously need your help. There’s something that’s been bothering me. I am 22 years old and I’ve been dating my guy for like 2 years now and I’ve had five abortions for him, yet he has not said anything about marriage. Anytime I bring on the issue he gets mad. And to make matters worse, right now, I am pregnant for him again! Please, help me, what should I do? ————Cynthia, 080374….
Lord have mercy! Five abortions and still counting? My dear, I am stunned here. How could you have allowed any man put you through this in this day and age? Seven abortions in two years and yet you have absolutely no idea if the man will end up marrying you or not? And even if he will, is that any reason for you to put yourself through this for any man? You could’ve lost your life in the process. At the very least, you could’ve damaged your womb beyond repairs. And to make matters even more infuriating, you’re carrying his baby yet again! Are you out of your mind? Haven’t you and your lover boy heard of the word protection? If you must have sex before marriage, couldn’t you at least do it with some caution? Now you’re asking me what you should do, you expect me to advice that you abort pregnancy number eight? Hell, no! You will keep this one. The guy cannot continue to eat his cake and still have it. Now, he has to start talking about marriage whether he likes it or not. Does his family know about you? Do they approve of you? If his family approves of you, tell him that you’re not willing to abort this one, that you’ve made enough sacrifices and taken enough risks with your life. Tell him he must be ready for marriage now otherwise you’ll be left with no other choice but to inform his people. He must be ready to take responsibilities as a man. Under no condition should you let him talk you into aborting this one. If he says he does not have the resources to take up the responsibilities of catering for a baby, then you tell him you will support him. Get a job if you don’t have one, earn a steady income to provide for yourself and baby, but please, do not kill baby number eight. Good luck.
Good day, Mr Wale, I’m Lola and I’m in a very complicated situation. I don’t know if you can help me. I am 16 years old and I think I’m in love with a 36 years old man. He said he loved me too and I fell for him. After sleeping with me severally I think he doesn’t want me again. Although, once, he asked me to marry him, but I believe he only used that to fool me, now that he’s slept with me, he’s not talking about marriage anymore. I have a feeling he doesn’t want me again even though he has not said so. Please reply, I don’t know what to do. ——————0814486…..
Goodness me! What in heavens name are you doing to yourself? Didn’t you say you were just 16 years old? Don’t you have parents or you’re not living with them presently? How could you let a man 20 years older than you be ruining your future? What exactly are you expecting me to tell you? That you should go beg him to change his attitude towards you so he can continue to use you and ‘vandalise’ your body? I certainly won’t do that. For Christ’s sake, you probably can’t even recall the number of times this cradle snatching idiot has taken advantage of you! Listen to me, young lady, get out of that illicit and shameful relationship fast before you get your fingers burnt. You should be focusing on your education now and work towards ensuring you get into the university, not wasting your youth and energy satisfying a lecherous old fool’s libido. Now that you can see he’s been deceiving you all this while, I hope the scales have fallen from your eyes.
Please, I need your help Doctor Love. I am a girl of 18 years and in SS 3. I started dating this guy who’s about 30 years old for four months now. I have slept with him so many times and he’s never trusted me. He’s always accusing me of sleeping around and beats me up always. Now, he doesn’t call me again, I am always the one calling him. Please, uncle Wale, what do I do? Please don’t reveal my number. ———Grace, Lagos.
My God! Another one? What’s going on here? What’s happening to you girls? At 18 years, you should, at the very least, be on your way to the higher institution but you’re still in secondary school getting ripped off by much older guys. Forgive me if I’m being a little hard on you, but seriously, this is not looking good for you. You have turned yourself into a sex slave for a man several years older than you. You say this man accuses you of ‘sleeping around’ and also beats you up, what would he call what you’re doing with him, ‘sleeping within’? Are you his wife? Grace, how do you imagine your parents would feel if they find out their beloved baby girl is neck-deep into this sort of mess? If you’re still in secondary school like Lola and you’re already on sex spree with an older partner, what will become of you when you get into the university? How do you leave the house to go have sex with this guy so regularly and nobody in the house monitors your movements? Your education must be your only priority, for now, not turning yourself into a sex slave for a man whose only mission is to set you firmly on a path of self destruct! Read my lips, stay away from that guy, he is nothing but bad news. I will have to call you up on the phone, I need to understand if you stay with your mum and dad and why no one seems to be paying you any attention in the house.
*Do you have a relationship issue bugging you? Is there something heavy on your mind you’ll like to share with me? Reach me via email: waleklawal14@yahoo.com or simply send SMS to 08037209290.
