9 Ways To Achieve Oneness In Marriage

•By Family Coach, Pastor BISI ADEWALE

Oneness is the fact or state of being one, Unified or whole, though comprised of two or more parts.

Oneness in marriage means to be of one mind and purpose in marriage.

Every couple will certainly need the force of unity to stay together as husband and wife and achieve great things.

God founded the marriage institution on the principle of oneness and unity.

The Meaning of Oneness

• Being one as husband and wife means to be unified, united and committed to one another.

• It means to build a team

• To be in union

• The Hebrew word for oneness means to be united when actions are taken and a one-time thing.

• Oneness leaves room for diversity in unity. We can be different. Indeed, God created us to be so—and still be unified.

• To have one mind

• To have things in common

WAYS TO ONENESS

IN MARRIAGE

Marriage is a sacred union between a man, woman, and God. It’s about a couple becoming “one flesh.” It’s a union of body, mind, and spirit that reflects something of God’s nature.

Building this kind of oneness doesn’t just happen in deep discussions and major moments. It happens in the daily things of life you do with and for one another.

Here are ways to grow as one in marriage day by day.

1. HONOUR EACH OTHER

“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.” Philippians 2:3 KJV

2. BE OF SAME MIND

“I beseech Euodias, and beseech Syntyche, that they be of the same mind in the Lord.” Philippians 4:2 KJV

3. HAVE SAME FOCUS

“Nevertheless, whereto we have already attained, let us walk by the same rule, let us mind the same thing.” Philippians 3:16 KJV

4. PRAY TOGETHER

“And at midnight Paul and Silas prayed, and sang praises unto God: and the prisoners heard them. And suddenly there was a great earthquake, so that the foundations of the prison were shaken: and immediately all the doors were opened, and every one’s bands were loosed.” Acts 16:25-26 KJV

5. GIVE ATTENTION TO AGREEMENT BY EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Amos 3:3 KJV

6. GIVE ROOM TO TOGETHERNESS

• Play together

• Walk together

• Read together

• Cook together

• Exercise together

• Do things together

7. DON’T SEEK TO BUILD PEACEFUL MARRIAGE; BUILD A ROMANTIC ONE

“They have healed also the hurt of the daughter of my people slightly, saying, Peace, peace; when there is no peace.” Jeremiah 6:14 KJV

8. FUEL YOUR LOVE LIFE

“Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:” 1 Peter 3:8 KJV

9. GIVE ROOM FOR TANTALIZING SEX LIFE

Sex in marriage is the glue. It helps to build strong bonds and oneness. That is why the enemy is fighting your bedroom life.

Give adequate attention to your bedroom life and improve on it.

Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 100 other books on marriage and family life. You can follow him on Instagram and Twitter @bisiadewale or reach him on askbisiadewale@gmail.com , 08068312004, and blogs daily on www.bisiadewale.com