• Tells City People
How do you intend coping with the New Normal?
The New Normal has to be adopted, you have to live by the norms. If you want to stay safe and remain alive, then you have to adopt a new way of life. Like in the U.K., we just came out of lockdown so the new normal for us is to stay one meter apart, to wear face masks when you are in a gathering, we can’t even hug ourselves anymore, so if you want to stay safe and remain alive, then you need to adopt it.
What are the lessons you have learnt from the pandemic?
I have learnt a lot, I have learnt that Sex is not the only thing that can keep a relationship. I have a boyfriend that I have not seen in almost a year and we are still good, so it is not by sex alone. I have managed to develop my skills, the skills I didn’t even know I had, so sometimes solitude is good and rewarding you are able to think about things you don’t normally think about because you have time on your hand.
I did a lot of exploring on the internet. Though the lockdown had its bad side but I learnt a lot during the lockdown and I am grateful to be alive.
What projects would you be working on in the next 5 years?
I have so much on my hands already so I would just like to perfect them. Apart from my masters which I am wrapping my project up, I have also enrolled in another programme. So those are basically the things I am doing for this year and I am also still struggling to make money.
What do you intend doing with the courses you are reading?
My Masters is in IT, the way the world is going if you don’t get at least tiny experience in technology, you will go nowhere, very soon robots will replace human beings, that is why I said let me do little in IT and be a master in that, so when it comes to managing security in any business I will be a force. Then my Ph.D will be in management business technology, so everything is IT inclined.
What message do you have for your fans and friends watching you?
First and foremost, keep safe because life doesn’t have a duplicate, you have got only one life. Don’t listen to any advise, just do things that would make you happy. I have gone through a lot in my life, there was a turning point for me, I stopped listening to people, so just do your own, life is too short. I want to die a happy person, don’t listen to the noise in the market, just do your own and be happy.
At what particular stage are you now in life?
I am at the stage of doing me, living my life to the fullest. Like my mother would always say, ah won’t you remarry, you are not getting younger but do you know what? There is Time and Season for everything, marriage is not happiness at least I have got experience in marriage.
Marriage is not a guaranty to happiness, the only thing that can give you happiness is You, and that is why I am happy and glowing today, my kids are in the university. Life is just beautiful.
Are you saying you have totally ruled out marriage?
Don’t get me wrong, I have not ruled out marriage, but it is God’s timing, I am a bit spiritual these days, anything I do is in God’s hands, so I just tell God please have your way. People would say go and marry, is a husband that easy to get? Will I just go to a street and pick a man. My mum would say, there are divorces and widowers out there. Did they inscribe it on their forehead, so it is difficult, the only thing you can do is to hand it over to God and say God please have your way. Like I said, it is not all about marriage for me, but it is about me achieving what I desire to achieve in life. It is not a man that would make me happy in life. Even if I decide to marry tomorrow. It is not because I want to be happy but it would be for partnership and companionship. It would get to a point in life that sex would not be anything to me anymore. It would now just be for friendship so I am in a stage of God have your way and it is not like I am not dating, I am dating, but we are not forceful about marriage. If it comes fine, if it doesn’t, it is okay. Companionship is sometimes better than marriage.
What is the secret of your good looks?
Honestly, I don’t know, it is nature. If you take all the anti-aging supplement in the world, if you don’t have a good gene, it won’t work for you. I think I picked it from my maternal side they don’t age at all, another thing people don’t know about me is that I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, maybe that helped me as well.
People call me social drinker. It is not like I never tried them when I was younger, but I don’t get addicted to anything and when I try things I only pick the ones that are okay for me, so I don’t get carried away with things.
How have you been able to cope with raising kids in the western world?
In the western world especially when you are single-handedly raising boys, it is very tough, all you need to do is pray. My mum would always say one should not suffer in two ways, you can be unmarried and your kids would be wayward again, so I give Almighty God all the glory, my boys are good boys. People that have come in contact with them will testify to that, it is not by my making but blessings from God Almighty forget we live in London, we have experienced hardship, moments we had nothing to eat just bread and butter alone in this country.
If you live in this country, then you would understand what I am saying because some people would say, ah you can still afford bread and butter.
There are times, I won’t even have money to change electricity and keep the house warm in cold, so we just sleep with blanket, but if those times didn’t happen, I won’t have stories to tell today. I thank God because I feel he was just building me to be a strong woman. Please when you see my boys, thank them for me, I have wiped tears and they have as well, they would be like, mummy, don’t worry, we would be rich and take care of you. So being a single mother is not a curse or sickness, it is not a pandemic.
God has seen your strength and knows what you are capable of doing, you took care of them, they are not doing drugs and are not in prison, it is indeed something to be thankful and grateful for.
