A closer look at the latest controversy

Good morning. I am about to take a closer look at the latest controversy that has to do with our first lady. Aisha Buhari. At first, I was quick to brush it away as one of those fantastic stories meant to tickle our fancies or fantasies but sooner or later it became clear that the story was real and I became all the more confused really because this was a couple I had learnt to respect.
So what went wrong? Truth be told we can see increasingly all over the world that the role of the modern-day woman should not be trivialized nor undermined. It’s my belief that every man must always pull their wives along and if you like I would use the word train
them to avoid such eventualities or surprises. Most of your major moves and policies should be sounded if not subtly but in informal action with your other half. Avoid springing surprises and keep her informed to avoid embarrassment on all sides.
In my studies on the story of Esther in the Bible, I observed that the King had introduced a plan to Vashti the queen which he had not communicated to her one-on-one and because she had not processed this in her mind she totally refused and embarrassed the king. The problem here is that it turned out to be a national embarrassment and other people had to come into the matter and who is to blame. We judge Vashti and all we see is the pride in her beauty but really there is a lot more to it. Esther had been trained by her uncle and was almost flawless but she could have failed. Also being humbled as a slave girl helped her upliftment as the queen. Hi, there we all need to be guided.
Do you know the tragic flaw of Lady Diana when she asked for the action to obey to be removed from her marriage vows. This is flawed in the sense that in journeying with someone you must be teachable how much an established system like the monarchy. We must give credence to Hillary Clinton because she stood by her husband without realizing that this was in itself a futuristic move. Today it’s clearly working for her this I will define as clandestine women’s lib.
I was watching a documentary on JFK the assassination. I observed how Jaclyn immediately covered her husband so much so that no one knew the extent of the injury till they got to the hospital. In fact the way she carried herself I will say is a true reflection of her husband she did not crumble but displayed immense stoicism. This brings me a little bit close to home. My grandmother is by no means a weakling by any standard but she would not in fact ever put up any form of taking on of her husband publicly a fact I have not observed privately. Yet it existed because they are human. At the most trying stage of his life, she still campaigned because she has that mindset of a partner. This is because she was fully informed and carried along. This is a vital lesson in leadership that must be fully utilized.
Lastly have you studied the queen of England she had been able to survive rumours and maintain our home based on the sensitivity of her role as a wife and a mother but also with awesome comportment so much that her husband is recognized and respected. We must learn that our calling is all-inclusive it’s not a one-man show. Failure to pull up our partner will have horrible consequences. We have seen that in the previous government’s here in Nigeria. The call includes your other half and there must be readiness to tackle issues on all sides. I remember a man of God telling me his wife who was very ill just had to get well because he has poured so much of himself into her. In his words how do I begin to train another where is the energy. This attitude brought the intervention of God and today they are doing mighty exploits in the name of our Lord Jesus. All leaders must learn from this and be prepared. God help us in Jesus name.