Hello, Mr. Wale, please, I’m emotionally troubled. I’ve been married for close to six years, yet my heart lies with another man. The worst part is that the emotion is getting stronger each passing day. The guy my heart lies with is also married with kids. We both have two boys each. We actually dated for about six years and when it was time to seal our love with marriage, we had genotype issues, something my mum didn’t even want to hear of. And we parted ways. We have not met in the last six years but I seriously look forward to seeing him. But I’m afraid, would he want to see me? Does he still have affection for me? Wish I could talk to you on phone, it’s until then you will understand me. Please conceal my number…from Troubled Lady.
SWEETHEART, as a rule, I never sympathise with married women who lust after other men. In fact, I’m usually a lot harder on them than I am on the younger single ladies. And my position is simple, once you’re married, you have to everything possible to keep your marriage alive and make it work. But in the event that you’re having trouble holding down your marriage, perhaps because your man just does not have the desire to make it work, then it is understandable if you decide to walk away from that marriage. But for every decent woman, it is only when you have walked away that you can start another relationship with another man, and not before then. If you’re found with another man before your marriage is dissolved, it will be believed that you’re the guilty party in the troubled marriage and blame you for everything that went wrong with it. My dear, I honestly do feel for you, you probably would’ve been married to the love of your life if you guys didn’t have genotype issues. But that’s life for you, it can be cruel sometimes. Still, I will advice you, do not wreck your home, worse still, someone else’s home. How many people will understand if your husband caught you with this man? Do you want to become the man’s second wife or what? Think about your future, think about your children, do you want to throw everything away for this guy? Shift your attention and affection back to your husband, dwell on his positive sides and tell yourself you’re going to love him with all you’ve got. If you truly love the children you’ve given to him, then you must learn to love him too. The guy has moved on and is happy in his place inside your past, please, dear, let him remain there inside your past.
GOOD day, Mr. Wale, I don’t want to disclose my name in this text because of some personal reasons. I have been in a relationship with a guy for over four years now and he never gives me the right to come to his place without prior notice of the day and time. The serious of it is that he’s a liar, a cheat and he’s never truthful to me, which I know myself. There was a day I saw on his phone a lady’s number he saved as ‘Baby Joy” whereas my name is saved on his phone as just my name. Mr. Wale, I love him but I have lost my faith in him. Tell me, what do I do?
Tell you what you should do? For God’s sake, you girls just never cease to amaze me. A guy treats you like some junk the cat dragged in, tramples all over your dignity as a woman and you still say you don’t know what do? If you were my kid sister, I would not hesitate to spank you for this. How could you be so naive? You say a guy is a liar and a cheat and you could never go to his uninvited, yet it didn’t occur to you to drop him like bad habit?? I also ask this question, what is it with girls and bad boys? Why are you always stuck in love with the boys that bring you nothing but bad news? It’s pretty obvious this guy doesn’t give a hoot about you, neither does he care about your feelings, so why would you claim you love him? You want my candid advice? Delete him from your memory, he doesn’t deserve the smallest space in it!
Please, I need your help Doctor Love. I am a girl of 18 years and in SS 3. I started dating this guy who’s about 30 years old for four months now. I have slept with him so many times and he’s never trusted me. He’s always accusing me of sleeping around and beats me up always. Now, he doesn’t call me again, I am always the one calling him. Please, uncle Wale, what do I do? Please don’t reveal my number. ———Grace, Lagos.
My God! Another one? What’s going on here? What’s happening to you girls? At 18 years, you should, at the very least, be on your way to the higher institution but you’re still in secondary school getting ripped off by much older guys. Forgive me if I’m being a little hard on you, but seriously, this is not looking good for you. You have turned yourself into a sex slave for a man several years older than you. You say this man accuses you of ‘sleeping around’ and also beats you up, what would he call what you’re doing with him, ‘sleeping within’? Are you his wife? Grace, how do you imagine your parents would feel if they find out their beloved baby girl is neck deep into this sort of mess? If you’re still in secondary school like Lola and you’re already on sex spree with an older partner, what will become of you when you get into the university? How do you leave the house to go have sex with this guy so regularly and nobody in the house monitors your movements? Your education must be your only priority, for now, not turning yourself into a sex slave for a man whose only mission is to set you firmly on a path of self destruct! Read my lips, stay away from that guy, he is nothing but bad news. I will have to call you up on the phone, I need to understand if you stay with your mum and dad and why no one seems to be paying you any attention in the house.
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