•DUNAMIS Pastor, PAUL ENENCHE
About 2 weeks ago, the Senior Pastor of Dunamis International Gospel Center, DIGC, Dr Paul Enenche was in the news and it was because his first daughter,Deborah got married in an elaborate wedding. It was a wedding which shook the whole of Abuja. Few weeks before the wedding, it was the senior pastor himself who announced the wedding of his first daughter, Deborah Enenche.
Deborah, a gospel artiste who is popularly known as Debbie Enenche tied the knot with a cinematographer, Sam Hawthorn Uloko on Saturday, December 17.
Pastor Enenche who made the announcement on Sunday via a post on his verified social media handles, invited the general public to the “Pre-wedding” “Parking Lot” Concert on Friday and the Saturday main event.The wedding ceremony took place at the Glory Dome auditorium, Airport Road, Abuja.
Many ministers of God,especially Bishop David Oyedepo was at the wedding where he preached the sermon on how the couple can keep their marriage. As we all know, Pastor Paul Enenche is one of the pastors who hold marriage in high esteem and this was also put to bear at the wedding as he prayed and gave a fatherly advise to his daughter. He is always known to celebrate his wedding anniversaries annually and has put out many sermons or messages on how couple can keep their marriage.
The annointed man of God, Pastor Paul Enenche has been married to Dr Becky, a beautiful, intelligent, submissive, supportive and hardworking Medical Doctor, also called of God into full time ministry for 28 years. And together, they have four blessed children. Dr. Paul is well-known for his direct speech style. According to him, it helps people to be free and and closer to God.
Getting it right in marriage is not by magic neither is it a rocket science, all what it needs is having the knowledge on how to pilot the affairs of Marriage. In his sermon, Pastor Paul Enenche shares profound wisdom for couples on how to succeed and have a hitch free marital home and titled it Best Way to Succeed in Your Marriage. He listed major ways couples can experience fulfilment, peace and excitement in their marriages, and avoid abuse.
The cleric explained that marriage was created by God to ensure maximum bliss, companionship fulfillment and potentials actualization for the married coupled. He said that when marriage “is done well, it is second to no other form of human relationship in excitement, ecstasy and fulfillment.”To do it well, Enenche stated that one must fear God and genuinely love their spouses.”The Knowledge and Fear of God is paramount. No one can genuinely know and fear God and not be an excellent husband or wife.There must be genuine love and appreciation for one another. Love that is real. Not fake or based on things,” he stated.
Furthermore, he added that couples must have value and respect each other while living an exemplary life of kindness and accountability.He noted that when there is lack of value and respect, abuse is inevitable in marriage. “There must be mutual value and respect for one another. You don’t abuse whom or what you value.”You must be the kind of spouse you’d want your children to have in the future.
The family structure is slowly becoming one of the harbingers of negativity in the society and many people rush into marriage without having a proper knowledge and strong grounding of the system.It is paramount that people intending to get into marriage understand the sacred ground they’re getting into. As pathways to excellence in marriage for married couples, he mentioned, live both in the fear and love of God (Eph. 5:25-30), Nobody who fears and loves God can be a bad spouse. The closer you get to God, the more loving you become.Live in genuine love and sincerity towards your partner (Eph. 5:25-30). Live in genuine vibrant spirituality (Eph. 5:25-30; Matt. 6:33), Marital harmony will flow if spirituality is in place
Spiritual integrity will promote marital dignity and harmony.Associate with those who have positive family values (Eph. 5:25-30; Prov. 27:17), Be under spiritual accountability (Eph. 5:25-30), Let someone (a spiritual head/figure) be able to hold you responsible for the way you are living your married life,Accountability imparts and assists integrity. Be watchful (Eph. 5:25-30; Matt. 26:41; 1Cor. 10:12), Every good home is a threat to enemy agenda; the devil wants people to believe that nothing works in a home. Be friends of each other (Eph. 5:25-30; Prov. 18:24) Let your spouse find in you a friend, Life is too short to live in tension; you have one life to live make sure you enjoy it. Be trustworthy (Eph. 5:25-30; Prov. 18:24) Be a person your spouse can trust; if your spouse doubts you, your relationship will have crisis. Be repentant (Ps. 34:18), Don’t be too big to say sorry; in fact, be too quick to say sorry.Be forgiving (Matt. 6:12)
You don’t walk into the future going backwards, Be considerate (Matt. 7:12; 1Cor. 7:1-5)
Anything you want, do it for the other person.It is not a compliment to have a frustrated spouse as long as the issue of sexual relations is concerned. Be interested (Prov. 18:24)
You cannot be an interesting person until you are interested in the affairs of your spouse. Be relevant, don’t be out-dated (Rom. 12:1), Remain relevant to your spouse. Women, present your best to your husband, Remember where you have come from (Isa. 51:1-2), Be mindful of the future of your children (Mal. 2:14-15), Your son is looking at you as a father to see the model of a father and husband; how you operate can affect his masculinity and paternity.
He cited many incidents as well, when people manage to marry, he says” There is a lot of marital accidents, where people divorce after one month. I was talking to the marriage community the other day that a woman ran out of the house after one month of marriage. So I asked her, what happened? She said the man beat the hell out of her. And the marriage community man said this man was such a gentle man in the marriage class.
….I was talking to another pastor the other day, who has a terrible marital situation. He said to me, sir! If I say I didn’t see the handwriting, I would be lying. He said the handwritings were there, I just ignored everything and said, let’s just go ahead……
Nothing is compulsory in life except Heaven.I don’t encourage anybody to enter relationships that you will break but I have seen people say, the next day after wedding, “I’m not sure of these thing” and stepped out. It may be very brutal and nobody should ever put another person through such. But wedding that didn’t hold is better than marriage that is hell. Don’t forget what I said, never manage to marry.God will give you the person for you. You will not marry the wrong person…
-TAYO OYEDIJI
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