How My Wife’s Temper Nearly Ruined Our Marriage

• ABUJA Pastor, JERRY EZE

One of the most popular Nigerian pastors right now, making waves both within and outside the shores of the country is Pastor Jerry Eze. He is the young and dynamic founder of Streams of Joy international, a ministry that is fast becoming a movement for both the young and the old. He is a gifted preacher with an incredible knowledge of the Bible. Pastor Jerry Eze commands a large following online. He has a very vibrant online ministry and he has perfected the art of engaging his teeming followers with different online programs and services.

Pastor Jerry Eze is married to the very beautiful Eno Ebele Jerry. She is also a popular Abuja based pastor who has become one of the most followed and respected female pastors in the land. She has built an enviable reputation for herself, not just as revered preacher, but also as a burning and shining light to many women out there. She also represents different things to different people. She is a transformational catalyst, a quintessential speaker, a dynamic preacher, and very significantly, the female voice that roars on the widely acclaimed Global prayer platform New Season Prophetic Prayers and Declarations (NSPPD) alongside her husband Pastor Jerry Eze popularly known for the slogan What God cannot Do Does Not Exist.

Pastor Eno and her husband, Pastor Jerry Eze both enjoy a blissful marriage blessed with children. But their marriage was quite tumultous at the early stage. According to Pastor Eno, she used to be very temperamental. She also admitted she was stubborn, rude and disrespectful towards her husband and these attributes very nearly ruined her marriage in its early years. But, somehow, they were able to overcome those difficult years and become a stronger, happier couple together.

At the 15th edition of the ARISE Women Conference where she and several accomplished women spoke to the multitudes of women present, Pastor Eno stunned everyone when she opened up about the turbulence she went through in the early years of her marriage and how she almost ruined her own marriage herself. According to her, she was largely the reason why her marriage was on the verge of total collapse.

Hear her: “In the first seven years of my marriage, I was an angry person, I was a bitter person, I was stubborn, I was highly opinionated. I was also very disrespectful. When you put all of these together, you can imagine what the home looks like. The only mercy I had was that my husband was a man of peace, so when I’m giving trouble, there’s someone trying to use peace to reduce the tension. But some of us are married to men who are equally trouble makers. So, you are looking for trouble, he is also looking for trouble, so when the two of you hit your heads together, you know what happens. That is where the enemy wants to put us in our marriage. From the beginning in Genesis, he came for our marriage, he came for our relationships.”

Today, all is well with their marriage and the couple, who also double as marriage counsellors, talk freely about their tumultous marital past to young people at different fora. This gives people the opportunity to learn from their mistakes and discover ways of solving their marital squabbles and differences and living happier lives as a couple. At a recent Christian event, Pastor Jerry Eze shared with the audience a bit about the early days of their marriage when his wife was a heady and difficult woman to be with as a wife.

Hear him: “When I was talking to my wife about something, my wife just clears the entire cabinet. There were breakable plates and cups on the cabinet and my wife cleared everything with one sweep of her hand she cleared all of them on the ground. Yes, serious clearing! She cleared everything on the ground and everything scattered and broke into pieces on the floor. And I was just standing there, confused and speechless because where I came from, we are not used to seeing that kind of thing. And everything just broke like that. Are you afraid of the story I’m telling you right now? Don’t worry, my wife is here, she is comfortable with me telling these stories. Sometimes, she even contributes because, right now, she is okay, you understand what I’m saying. She is a totally different person now.”

“And you know what? Thank God that I was able to go through what I went through, but I must tell you it was not funny at all. It’s not the kind of thing you should go through. I remember one time when I was in London with my wife. We were on a street in Landon where we had gone shopping. And that time, ehn…? Okay, by the time we were in the store, I said something to my wife, I think I said something like you should’ve told me you were going, and the next thing she said, ehn, why am I saying that? Why am I stressing her? I thought it was a joke, my wife left me in the store and went home. I don’t live in London, I don’t know my way around London!. She left me inside the shop and went home. I stayed there for a long while, I didn’t know how to go home. I then called her friend and said, please o, I am here o, and I’m calling my wife, my wife is not picking the phone. And her friend called my wife and said, Eno, where are you? My wife said she is in the house, she said is there anything the problem? She said but you left your husband in the shop. My wife said, ehn, he will find his way and come back. Have I found my way before? And the truth of the matter is that that was how she left me. Her friend had to come pick me and take me back home. You can imagine that type of life.”

“One day, my wife looked at me while I was talking to her and said, dear, you have a problem. I told her, yes, so, what is the problem? She said your problem is that you like peace too much. Heaven bears me witness, she said, you like peace too much. I said, I like peace too much? She said, yes, you like peace too much.

I was praying with my wife one day. We had been praying for a while and while the prayer was going on, she tapped me and said, summarise! Really, she looked at me and said, summarise and I just looked at her and said, even with God too? But the truth is that, right now, I got married to one of the amazing prayer warriors you can ever think of.”

– WALE LAWAL

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