Sex, the ultimate power to hold a marriage, is sometimes misunderstood, our Christian family portrayed it as been repressive in the extreme, many of our Christian families opposed sex education, not knowing that the bible passage that says “Teach a child the way he should go” is also talking about teaching your sons and daughters about sex before marriage. Many of us fail as mothers, because of our contemporary cultural beliefs that sex is bad to talk about with our teenagers, forgetting that the power of technology has exposed our kids more to what we shame away from.
In the book of Genesis Chapter 2: 25 it says that the first husband and wife were: “both naked and were not ashamed”. This makes me wonder in the same vein when married couple are having issues because of sex in the marriage when we all have read or known that before we all come short the glory and became sinners, sex was part of the created order of God Almighty. Sex was particularly good, was freely engaged in, approved by God who made Man and Woman without inhibition of any sorts by both individuals involved ‘The Man and The Woman’ Also the book of Proverbs 5: 18 -19 says “ Rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts always fill you with delights; be intoxicated always in her love.
This is quite amazing to know that having sex in a marriage is nothing to be ashamed of, is something we need to embrace, and be happy to flaunt, if you are pronounced husband and wife. For me, I enjoyed the way the scripture talked about sex and how it’s been described. In (Genesis 1: 27 -28). God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it. We often misunderstood this, because we want to be like God or be perfect in all our ways forgetting that we can not be like Him. Sex is about pursuing physical, emotional, sexual, and ontological union. It is about submission, exploration, discovery, and delight. (Hebrews 13: 4)
Let marriage be held in honor among all and let the marriage bed be undefined. Therefore, sex should not be a thing of shame, it should be honored, appreciated, enjoyed, and cherished as a gift from God to you and your spouse. Knowing how good this gift of palatable endless enjoyment is, we should learn to practice it in many styles and dimensions, and not stick to our regular traditional ways of laying flat and let the man do the job. As women we are the owner of the empire called lovemaking, we are the product owner of the game, we create the adventure, define the vision, prioritize the need and evaluate the progress of the project (sex) on hand, we need to take charge and be in control when we talk about sex in our marriage or relationship, doing this will give you the fulfillment of the heart and you can be rest assured your relationship or marriage will remain intact. Let wait until my next column, when I will burst you into the Parliament of home-keeping with the power of lovemaking
– Ranti Jacobs Agbaminoja
