DEAR DOCTOR LOVE, my name is Christabel from Ph. Doctor, i read my boyfriend’s whatsapp messages and I played his voice note with a certain girl. The girl was pleading on behalf of her friend whom he’s having an affair with and they’re having issues. He told her that he was’nt hiding anything from her friend, that he gave her hi’s password and that he told her about a girl who was throwing herself at him [which is me] Doctor, i felt really heart broken. He just met this girl few months ago while I have been dating him for a while now. Please, what do I do?
MY DEAR CHRISTABEL, I can imagine how much you must be hurting right now. To have a guy you care about belittle you in such manner can be painful. I will suggest that you confront him with what you found out. He will ofcourse be upset that you went thru his phone behind his back, but in the end, it has paid off for you cos you now know the kind of guy he is, especially if you were looking to have a future with him. Confront him and hear what he has to say. Will he tell you that wasn’t his voice or he will outrightly fight you for going thru his phone or simply apologize? I can’t tell what his response will be, but I think it’s his reaction that will determine the decision you take next. He has clearly shown that he is not to be trusted. It will take a while now before you can start trusting him again. But hear him out first and listen to what he has to say. Then, reach me later to let me know how it went with him. Good luck.
HOW DO I TELL MY
MAN I’M TIRED OF HIM?
DEAR DOCTOR LOVE, I have a little problem and I need your help. I am Bimbo by name, and 25 years old. I have been dating my guy for a couple of years now. When we started our relationship, it was beautiful. But afterwards, we started drifting apart. He is a good guy. Both of us cannot explain what the problem, but I think we are growing apart. I am tired of pretending that all is well with the relationship, I want to put an end to it and move on but I don’t know how to tell him. Please, advice me, what should I do?
DEAR BIMBO, before you take the decision you want to take, you must ask yourself, what exactly went wrong with the relationship? Do you sincerely believe you have no blame in the collapse of the relationship? And rather than jump to the hasty conclusion that the relationship is over, why don’t you sit your guy down first and both of you talk things over. I will ask that you tread with caution. If this guy is a good guy like you said, then he deserves that you sit down with him and talk things over. It could be that all you basically need is to bring back the sparks in your relationship as against completely throwing it all away. What is the guarantee that the next guy you go for will turn out to be as good as this guy has been to you? Think about it. Dear, and tread with caution.
