Today , the Spirit of God is moving on me the trajectory to analyse,men based on some of the above . So what is the Id, the ego and the Super_ ego . These are actually developmental processes that frame or determine the nature of a man.
This line evoking tributries from some facets is really to focus on the male gender for now. Without doubt there is every chance of encumbering and touching on the aspect of the female as an inevitable relational factor, with the full view to arrive at a healthy conclusion and achieve some healthy balance , which clearly is the motive .
For every one of us , we have to go through differing development stages. Which for the sake of defination as I borrow from the textbooks can range frim the phallic, genitalia or other ineviable metamorphosis that influence behavioral patterns and futuristic attributes .
One Psychologist, i think Sigmund Freud has described the mind as a blank slate , a Tabular Rasa , of which actual, or real life experiences are written on . Thereby making experiences which can be traced to environment , parental impact and other interactions impressions that essentially form Character.
To this extent , it is important to rely also on genetic factors , .In Africa we say the child of the lion has no choice but to flagrantly display the prowess of its genetics .
A child of a robber will inevitably become a thief . The onerous disparity interprets or translate to the fact , that no other form of cultivation can impact these genetic factors . Which is grossly unfair. Now for the sake of analysis , a needful projection into life patterns should be carefully observed with strident analysis scrutiny. .
The subject matter is the male sexual development with consideration of the natural attributes as it influences or iis impacted by Society , Spirituality and Parental impact not.forgetting the genetic factor . First challenge here to be considered is how controlled can a man be , naturally .
The general belief that male folks are influenced by sight and in viewing or at a sight of a female certain uncontrolled feelings are provoked is a natural flaw or disadvantage anhilating any form character empowerment based on.nature .
From the disadvantaged inherency, comes the urgency, that develop and avoid gross and unwarranted behaviour , in forms of rules,and regulations evolved to protect the female species . Amongst these is the Marriage institution, even Various laws against rape and Societal developments protecting the rights of man , that covers and shields the girl child. For more information, it is relevant to research eroticism during Slavery, the evils are almost unprintable .
Men as we see are activated basically, to certain extent by the extraneous, mostly by sight , so the need to nurture certain vices without rendering them extinct begins with the parent ., This mindset necessitates mode that emotes that certain checks must be vehemently operative to achieve this .
A Son will learn based on imput and impact but is closely watching the Parents as he adopts certain llifestyles. So in teaching self control, how feasible are majour or implied accompaniments such as an Harem.of wives or that uncle with more than one wife . Not forgetting the bombardments of socialites and the rich with side chicks and different forms of erroticism which can not be ignored which the male child dailly confronts .
A man is growing and is fast forming an opinion on life issues and patterns . During my secondary School years , there were rapists . These rapists had parents , the reaction of the authorities in their lives was fickle and today they are still abusive towards women.
The response or positioning of a Parent of a girl child is more perplexing ranging from the blame game, to punitive applications which is inflicted or decided on the assaillant and even the victim , whose gender proves clearly that she will mever remain the same . Its no secret that the reason why the oldest profession of prostitution will remain ignored as it persists can be traceable to these natural need in man.
The promptings undeniably can not be curbed as even the greatest of men have fallen for these weaknesses. The story of some of the fathers of faiths ranging from.David to Jacob and even Rahab who was a prostitute, but protected the spies and saved a city is there for our perusal and judgement. The reality and human responses over time over rape and many horrendous experiences practiced by man has been altogether flippant cripplying the men folk to the critical lower level of the Id .
The idea that ,as it remains overlooked and undermined unrelently without remorse and checks we encounter encouraged rape on a mass level, such as the horrifying effects of evils as,the Boko Harram . all these traceable to attitudes towards uncontrollable permisiveeness of men . Scandals in the Catholic Church even with young men, escapades of Pastors are undermined in terms correctiveness and sometimes condescendingly abandoned in legalities .
The ego and super ego are expectation that makes the men constantly independently check his vices, adopt ways of escape in Spiritual develooment and protect the weaker sex. How does one escape the raping of a weaker , such as child which is a reflection of the grotesque in man. Woman , what is,your reaction to the knowledge of a son who is a rapist or a son who umceremoniously impregnates a woman .
Clearly our decisions and applications will eventually wholesomely affect or destroy a life or even generations . Do we ever as parents sit our children down to talk and impact them .This revelation in doing this write up inspires me on that directive , a must do to all intents and viable purpose share with sons both spiritual and biological, a readiness to do this more frequently , with full realisatuon that every life matters .
I quote from the Holly book the plight of JEPHTHAH. His brothers denied him his inheritance as the Bible tells us he was a son of a prostitute even though he was faultless.The mercy of God made his brothers eventually repent crawling back to beg him to.lead them .
The surprise here which is so typical of men is that the same man who solicited the prostitute, shamelessly declared he has been degenerate enough to be with a prostitute, but this did not stop GOD in engendering a saviour out of the reject .
When Joseph did not understand the immaculate conceptuon in Mother Mary, his plan was to put her away privily, yet in her was his saviour. Definitely as a well cultivated man prepared over time for the Miraculous he was able to grasp as he basks in everlasting honour as generations celebrate h.forever .
This platitude or great attainment is not for boys or the basic but a preparation for the great . The highest, attribute displayed is in the Super ego which is the Supernatural by my interpretation .Expressions and development moving from pleasure syndrome which is the primary , to Gods measure, which is the consciousness of Divine attributes that promotes elevation.
Lastly , in accepting the biological and natural promptings , we witness the dispay and preseve of man at his rawness. A man must not stagnate or be concretised at this low level which expresses basic nature akin to the animal or the infantile nature , rather a reasonable , humane function must be sourced out , which is inherent in every man, who has been created in the similitude and likeness of God .
Man can be honourable to behold , discovering the beauty within, the image of Gods creativity by constantly and willingly mutating and advancng by rejection of the raw , basic state .
Ye are gods, therefore are not allowed , can not live, or operate as mere men.
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