When it happened 10years ago, she felt so bad about it. She and her husband had a crash. He died and she lost her Limb.
Since then, she has learned to live with that painful reality. A few days ago, she celebrated the 10th year anniversary of losing her Limb and hubby, on the same day. Citypeople Magazine Publisher, Seyekehinde got her to talk about it, and how she has coped. Below are excerpts.
Please tell us how you feel as you remember your husband….
How do I feel?
I am here with mixed feelings but my heart is full of undiluted gratitude.
Your anniversary also marks the celebration of your Foundation.Tell us about it.
No, YETUNDE MORENIKEJI AJANI ADENIYI RAJI FOUNDATION is not 10 yet…
The foundation is less than 5yrs.
Hubby got killed in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦 ten years ago by a guy in a road traffic accident which I was in as well.
Though, the accident claimed my husband’s life at the spot but left me with half leg & health challenges.
It’s actually 10th year remembrance for my husband, Dr/Rtn/Alhaji Adeniyi Ajani Nojeemdeen Raji & 10th year celebration of my second rare chance as AMPUTEE WIDOW.
How have you coped with being alone all these years?
Grace is on the wheels of this ‘Coping’ especially with the tough situation in today’s Nigeria.
But no retreat…no surrender on my route!!!
How have you adjusted to the challenges of life as an amputee?
Like I said earlier because grace is on my wheels, I accepted my new identity very well after my Treasure’s embraced the new me with another level of love even if things are tough, I only see it from my own view and from who God says I am. Because God doesn’t make mistakes and I am beautifully & wonderfully redesigned. Though still missing not wearing my heels
Over the years you have given hope to many Nigerians who you have taken up their cases and advice them to stay hopeful.How do you achieve all these?
Personally, It’s always easy to give advice in my situation especially if the ‘case or challenge’ the person seeking advice is something I can relate with or must have gone through or seen around.
Because if Only we can look deeper into whatever trials we’re passing through, the solution is always from that table as well but if you’re beclouded with the events then you probably won’t see well not to talk of grabbing the positive message from it.
I practically use my case as a study.
You are very stylish and you always look beautiful all the time.How did you cultivate that,despite your challenges?
Being fashionable has always been part of me & I simply refused to let the condition hijack that from me.
Wherever you find yourself,
turn it into a playground…
There’s always one good thing from every bad situation.
Style or fashion shouldn’t define me as Amputee Widow.
What are the major lessons life has thought you since your accident?
Lessons?
I am actually still learning.
But I got these important ones;
- Death is certain.
- The best don’t last.
- Strength.
- Growth.
- Trust less(though this is one major weakness for me as I trust too much).
- Don’t love the wrong person/people.
- How long will it last?
- You’re strong but just don’t know how strong.
- Never rule out God out of anything.
- Never be too hard on yourself.
- Let go & Allow God.
- Accept the original version of yourself & fall in love more with your image while adjusting your God’s given grace crown with pride. Though must not live kindness out of all these(kindness shouldn’t be material things here)
Do you have any job or business that you do?
Yes but looking for another job.
Do you still remember your husband every day? What kind of a husband was he? And what do you keep remembering?
Is there really a way not to remember him?
My lost limb alone is a constant reminder of him.
My health is another.
I See Adeniyi daily in everything I do….
He was all over me too much while alive with fondest memories to wipe off just like that.
He was a great Doctor to his patients.
A great humanitarian in Rotary.
A dear Son In Love.
He was an amazing son & loyal friend to friends(unfortunately, owó epo l’omo aráiyé ń bá ni lá…no one can lick blood).
He was a problem solver, a great peace maker.
Excellent dad!
But he was my own ALL IN ALL.
What do I keep remembering about him?
His jokes…
His texts & checking on me like a baby(so women might not like this but…it’s a big deal for me).
His naughtiness… Too humble…and playful(you won’t see him as a medical doctor if meeting him for the first time).
A great “FIXER”.
Very truthfully….and down to earth.
His integrity is out of this world. Our eating together from the same plates/bowl for 17yrs even if it’s soaking garri unless he is out of town.
Doing Skype with me to eat my food when he is not around(food is not friendly to me..laughs!
Correcting me….
Running around the compound with our Treasures to play soccer ⚽️ & watching them while swimming(I am the only odd one in the family on many games/sports).
Applauding every little achievement from me. Pushing me to do more.
I miss him too much but for his great deeds & pray God will continue to rest his great soul and keep providing for his wife/children…Al-Fathia!
